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A lot of effort goes into avoiding bad feelings. While uncomfortable emotions are generally unpleasant, avoiding them isn’t the whole job. Building resilience matters more—the ability to bounce back from difficult emotions and move through hard stretches with the same effectiveness as we do the good ones. The Resilience Deficit # Although speculative, there seems to be a societal shift away from teaching resilience toward eliminating anything that might cause discomfort. Take bullying: rather than equipping children with tools to handle difficult people, we often focus exclusively on eliminating bullying. While this is certainly a worthy goal, it might not fully prepare young people for life’s inevitable challenges.

There’s a subreddit called r/amiugly where people post pictures of themselves and ask the community to rate their appearance. It’s a place where people seek validation, reassurance that they are beautiful, or at least not ugly. After spending time on this subreddit, I’ve noticed something striking: most people posting aren’t ugly at all. They’re generally normal-looking individuals who skew young and presumably struggle with low self-esteem. It’s a fascinating window into the minds of people who are deeply insecure about their appearance despite—in most cases—having nothing to worry about.

When examining extraordinary success stories, we often find that behind many achievements lies a powerful combination of circumstances and opportunities. While talent and effort matter, research consistently shows that success frequently stems from two significant factors: advantageous starting conditions and luck. By “advantageous starting conditions,” I mean having access to resources and opportunities that others don’t. The reality is that exceptional talent faces significant barriers without access to basic opportunities.

Take a walk on any given day these days, and instead of staring at your phone, try looking around. If you want to do this on hard mode, leave the phone at home if you can manage. You’ll probably notice more than you expect. Comparing Instagram followers

Yoga sits right in that overlap between exercise and meditation. When most people think of yoga, they picture the physical practice of āsanas (poses) and vinyāsa (flowing sequences)–the aspects that provide a workout. But that’s only part of it; it also carries its own philosophy and a way of paying attention that feels different from exercise alone.

“I don’t know.” Three words that usually tell me someone is thinking straight. Yet they’re among the hardest words for many of us to say. There’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Few have mastered the art of walking it, and fewer still have the wisdom to know when to step back. People with enough self awareness to recognize their fallibility are–in my experience–a rare breed.

At some point in recent history, travel stopped feeling optional and started feeling like something you’re supposed to do. The rise of social media has dramatically changed how and why we travel. A 2019 study found that 40% of millennials choose travel destinations based on “Instagrammability” rather than cost or cultural experience1. While technology has proliferated travel information and made the world more accessible, it has also shifted our motivations in subtle ways.

You’ve heard of the mind-body connection, and maybe also the brain-gut connection, but have you considered the interconnected mind-body-gut system? These systems overlap more than the language around them usually suggests. The term “mind-body connection” has been a staple in wellness circles for decades. The gut-brain connection entered mainstream research much more recently. Only in the past 20-30 years have researchers begun to unravel the complex communication network between our digestive system and our brain.

We are all artists, in one sense or another. Our society, unfortunately, does little to cultivate this innate creativity beyond the occasional obligatory art class in school. I dabble in creative pursuits myself, though I don’t identify as particularly talented or skilled in making art. Yet I still create, because the act itself brings its own rewards.

“High hopes, low expectations” has become something of a personal mantra for me. I could probably build an entire comedy routine around this concept. Many people navigate through life perpetually disappointed for one simple reason: their expectations tower far above reality. Whether in relationships, careers, or personal endeavors, they set themselves up for endless disappointment by expecting perfection in an imperfect world.